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Self-growth through anger can actually be some of the greatest lessons you'll ever learn.
通过愤怒实现的自我成长实际上是你将学到的最伟大的一课。
This particular emotion is a great indicator that something is seriously wrong and that you need to do something about it.
这种特别的情绪是一个很好的信号。它表明情况很严重，而且你需要做些什么来改变这种情绪。
If you take the time to actually examine your anger instead of just "feeling" angry you'll gain incredible insights into yourself. The problem is usually you're too busy being mad at people or external events to learn the valuable information your emotion is trying to tell you. You're blaming others for your feelings when you really should be looking inside.
如果你真的花时间去审视你的愤怒，而不是仅仅"感到"愤怒，你会对你自己有难以置信的洞悉。问题是，你总是忙着对别人或外部事件生气，而不能了解你的情绪在试图告诉你的宝贵信息。你把自己的感受归咎于别人，而此时你应该审视自己的内心。

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Here are two ways to enable self-growth through anger in a positive way:
这里有两种方法可以让你以积极的方式通过愤怒实现自我成长:
Why Are You Angry?
1. 你为什么愤怒?
Ask yourself, "Why are you really feeling angry?"
问问你自己，"为什么你真的感到愤怒?"
Understanding why you feel so angry can provide you with some surprising answers. It's these answers which can enable you to suddenly grow spiritually and mentally because you'll suddenly understand why you've been reacting a certain way.
理解你为什么感到如此愤怒可以给你一些令人惊讶的答案。正是这些答案能让你在精神上和心理上突然成长，因为你会突然明白为什么你会有这样的反应。
So, to start with, ask yourself, "Why am I so angry?" If your response is something like "because Joe didn't pick up the dry cleaning like I asked him to" then you're not looking deep enough. Blaming others is the superficial response.
所以，首先，问问你自己，"我为什么这么愤怒?"如果你的回答是这样的"因为乔没有按照我的要求去取干洗的衣服"，那么你看得就不够深入了。指责他人只是表面反应。
The fascinating thing about anger is that what you think makes you angry (people, events, situations) really isn't what causes you to get upset. They are simply the trigger for your emotion. They set off something inside of you by hitting on one of your "buttons" or something that causes intense feelings for you. For example, they may bring out past feelings of guilt or make you feel like you're being rejected or that you're not good enough. Or you may be feeling fear.
愤怒的极其有趣之处在于，你认为让你生气的人、事件或者处境其实并不是让你不高兴的原因。他们只是触发情绪的诱因。他们通过敲击你的某个"按钮"或者引发某些让你产生强烈情感的事情，触发你内心的某处。例如，他们可能会让你想起过去的罪恶感，或者让你觉得自己被拒绝了，或者让你觉得自己不够好，再或者让你感到恐惧。
You can learn a lot about yourself by analyzing what feelings are stirring within. Once you figure it out and deal with it then you'll find that the trigger has no power over you anymore. A situation that would make you absolutely furious before will simply have no effect.
你可以通过分析内心激荡的情绪来充分了解自己。一旦你弄清楚并处理好自己的情绪，你就会发现这种诱因不再对你有任何影响。以前让你怒不可遏的情况会对你完全没有影响。
So, when you realize that you're feeling anger, ask yourself what bothers you the most about the situation? What is it telling you about yourself, your needs, your wants, etc.? You need to work through the emotion of anger as soon as you can. It's your reaction you need to figure out. Dig deep and learn from that. You'll be amazed at what you can discover about yourself.
所以，当你意识到自己感到愤怒时，问问自己在这种情况下什么最让你烦恼?关于你自己、你的需求以及你的欲望等，它在告诉你什么？你需要尽快消除愤怒的情绪。你需要弄明白你的反应。深入挖掘并从中学习。你会对你所发现的自己感到惊讶的。

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